April 29, 2009 by admin
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The Mystery Method: How to Get Beautiful Women into Bed was a groundbreaking book on the pickup arts written by Mystery (Erik von Markovik) with Chris Odom (Lovedrop) — who are now both exclusively at VenusianArts.com, where they are partners along with James Matador from Vh1's The Pickup Artist.
The Mystery Method is still a classic on the subject of pick-up and social dynamics, although it has since been superseded by Revelation (2008, The Venusian Arts), a book which, according to Mystery, is "now the ultimate final authority on the subject of pick-up." (And is available exclusively on this website.)
A sequel to The Mystery Method was published in 2010, The Pickup Artist: The New and Improved Art of Seduction, and is available in bookstores as a mainstream primer on Mystery's method and current ideas.
The Mystery Method was released originally as an e-book, The Venusian Arts Handbook (2005, Mystery Method Corp). Chris Odom (Lovedrop) first wrote The Venusian Arts Handbook based on Mystery's diagrams and interviews with Mystery, and he also incorporated several significant pieces of Mystery's actual writings. A year later, the book was revised for mainstream publication. A new chapter was added at the beginning of the book, and Erik and Chris spent weeks poring over the manuscript. The two of them sent the final copyedited pages to New York from a hotel room in Fairbanks, Alaska, and it was published by St. Martins Press in 2007.
Featuring a foreword by Neil Strauss, bestselling author of The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists, the original Mystery Method book has been a smashing success and continues to sell briskly.
Chapter listing:
Foreword by Neil Strauss ix
Preface xiii
1. The Mystery Behind Casanova 1
2. The Ultimate Purpose of Life 10
3. Rewiring Her Attraction Circuitry 24
4. Rules and Structure of the Game 39
5. A1: Open 68
6. A2: Female-to-Male Interest 88
7. A3: Male-to-Female Interest 126
8. Conversation 159
9. Mid-Game and End-Game 183
Conclusion 207
A Bonus Letter from Mystery 209 (Note: Page 209 will actually put you onto a competitor's mailing list, and Mystery has nothing to do with it! Beware.)
Glossary 211
This book covers survival and replication value, an overview of the structure of the game, approaching and opening, attraction, including DHVs and Negs, IOIs, IODs, Group Theory, Multiple Conversational Threads, Winging, Waypoints, Accomplishment Intros, Storytelling, Lock-in Props, Forward and Backward Merging, Pawns, Obstacles, and Interrupts, Frame Control, Hoop Theory, Screening, Intermittence, Escalation, Kino Pinging, Takeaways, Compliance, Qualifiers, Bait-Hook-Reel-Release, Conversational Rapport, building Comfort and Trust, Commonality, Conspiracy, Vulnerability, Jealousy, Punish/Reward, Grounding, Kissing, Mid-Game and End-Game, Phone Game, Dating, and Overcoming Last Minute Resistance.
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CORRECTION: On page 126 of The Mystery Method, there is a diagram that says "1. Bait, 3. DHVs, 2. IOIs" THIS DIAGRAM IS WRONG. It's supposed to read: "1. Bait, 2. DHVs, 3. IOIs" For the record.
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Mystery is the alter-ego of entertainer Erik von Markovik, the star of VH1’s The Pickup Artist and the world’s foremost expert in the art and science of social dynamics. Mystery exploded onto the underground pickup and seduction scene in the late 1990s with his groundbreaking contributions to the art, and he was the first pickup instructor to offer live, in-field training. Mystery has trained thousands of students all over the world, including a who’s who of the most respected pickup artists teaching today. Mystery gained international prominence when his exploits were documented in Neil Strauss’ 2005 bestseller The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists, and he has also been covered by a wide variety of media including CNN, Conan O’Brien, and The New York Times.
More about Mystery and the Venusian Arts…
Our company bible, Revelation.
Mystery's newest book, The Pickup Artist.
April 29, 2009 by admin
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Girls have been the greatest mystery to mankind for ages. They captivate us in a way nothing else can and make us do thing we usually wouldn’t do. We all want to impress them but let’s face it, only a few of us hold the key to doing so. Do you strike out with the girls more often than not? Are your skills of picking up the ladies definitely lacking? If so then we’ve got what you need. Venusian Arts proudly presents Revelation, the last guide to social dynamics you’ll ever need. This comprehensive step by step ebook compiles over ten years of social dynamic research to get you the best results with all the ladies. Let us teach you the artistry of the pickup line to take her breath away. Choose from a selection of canned material to get the ball rolling then give it your own flavor by utilizing the basic fundamentals you will learn from Revelation. The material covered in Revelation has been field tested on girls all over the world. Stop embarrassing mistakes by knowing exactly when to say and when to say it. Don’t let girls be a mystery any longer, learn the secrets with Revelation and start to meet the women of your dreams.
April 23, 2009 by admin
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We all want love. How are you supposed to get love if the women of your dreams are out of your reach? Is the flame of your love life barely burning? Pour some gasoline on it with Revelation, the new ebook proudly brought to you by Venusian Arts. We?ve taken ten years or social dynamic research and compiled it into one easy to read guide which will unlock the secrets to a successful and active love life. Let us teach you the art of the perfectly crafted pick up line which will leave her speechless. We?ll show you how to make a lasting impression from the first date all the way through to the relationship. By the time your through, Revelation will take your love life to new and exciting heights you never thought possible. Are you self conscious about your looks? With Revelation you?ll find the potential for love with women through the foundations of social interactions no matter what league they are in. We?ll teach you how to wow her again and again until the love you deserve is in your grasp. Stop wishing for love, reach out and grab it with Revelation.
April 23, 2009 by admin
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Pickup lines, you?ve heard them; you?ve used them and most of the time they completely suck, or just flat out blow you out of the water. Do the workings of the perfectly crafted pickup line elude you? Do you blow your chances with all the ladies before you even get started? Don?t let it happen to you again, learn the subtle artistry of the pickup line and become the master of all the women you survey. Venusian Arts proudly presents Revelation, a compilation of over ten years of social dynamics research compiled in to one comprehensive guide to make you?re A-game truly an A-game. Let us teach you how to unlock your potential and get you saying the things that will leave her wanting more. By the time you?re through Revelation you?ll be getting the exact reactions you have always aspired to receive. You?ll learn the tried and tested canned routines from several of the world?s leading pickup artists that will take you from the beginning of an interaction right through to the second and third date with her. Why just make a first impression when you can make a lasting one? We?ll even take you a step further; Revelation will teach you how to make your own canned material and even how to portray yourself as attractive no matter what you?re saying by fine tuning your personality and attitude in a way that is utmost desired by women. Are your pickup lines not getting you anywhere? It?s time for a Revelation.
April 23, 2009 by admin
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It’s Saturday night and club is packed. From across the room you see her; the girl of your dreams. She looks at you; you look at her. You draw a blank and your mouth goes dry. You?re paralyzed with fear. Your heart of hearts wants to approach her but even with all of your power you can’t bring yourself to take those few steps for some unbeknown reason. Sound familiar? Then look no further for the best in dating advice. Get on the top of your game and stay there with the ground breaking ebook Revelation, proudly brought to you by Venusian Arts. Revelation contains over ten years of tried and tested social dynamic research in one comprehensive guide. With a wealth of knowledge like this you?re destined for success. Let us introduce you to the integral issues and ideas you need to make sure your dating quota is maximized. From start to finish you will learn how to tap into potential you never thought possible and control any situation, anytime, anywhere. Don?t have the looks of a Greek God to bring to the table? No worries, once you understand the underlying foundations of Revelation the dating scene will open wide up and no woman will be out of your league. Don?t settle for being a wallflower any longer, learn how to make an impact, keep your reputation and have her begging for more. If ?how do I get a date?? is your question, Revelation is your answer.
April 21, 2009 by Wild Card
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Jealousy, what is it exactly?
A lot of people make it seem like such a negative feeling. From this impression, most of the time people feel that they have to resort to violence or anger. But this does not necessarily have to be the case.
“Jealousy leads to anger, anger leads to hate, and hate leads to the dark side” – Yoda.
Jealousy is something triggered off in our minds to send us a message. It’s trying to tell us that we are attracted and in some way emotionally invested with a member of the opposite sex. A woman, for instance, first knows she’s attracted when she becomes jealous. This hard-wired emotion is built to protect what we want for ourselves and to help motivate us to go get the very thing in which we are jealous for. Some say this is a problem, but where there is a problem, there is always an opportunity for growth.
Despite the temptation to do so in the field, don’t let this emotion take you over. Instead we use it to your advantage: mostly with the hotties in the bar that you want to have attracted to you, but for anything really. And that’s where the jealousy plotline comes in, why it works, and how it can become very useful to you. Now I’m not about to get into all the different ways you can do this i.e. using a pivot, displaying major DHV that a female can relate to etc – that’s all covered in Revelations (you HAVE bought that by now, haven’t you?) This article is mainly here to inform you on how to identify jealousy within yourself, within others and how to deal with it from there.
Now we all know what jealousy is. However, most people seem to believe we always act on the facts presented to us. WRONG! If that were the case then you’d be able to go to the bar tonight and never have to worry about loosing your cool to a feeling of jealousy. But this is not the case. Chances are that you act on it as an emotion and thrash out just like a jealous person would next time it comes around. As a PUA you should know that you should always be aware of your emotions. So the next time something happens to you while you’re out in the field, on a day two, or even in a relationship you need to identify the fact that you are feeling jealous and decide to deal with things rationally.
Now what? Well, what’s the situation? Jealousy is usually triggered in the field by a member of the same sex imposing on your set. You need to calm down and deal with it RIGHT NOW. Don’t over react in these situations like a typical jealous person would. Jealousy will only get you the opposite of what you want. So what does that mean? It means stop being a little bitch and take control of the situation. Acting distant or moody or getting snappy with people isn’t going to help you. Starting an argument or making your target feel bad for talking to another guy is certainly not going to help you. You are only feeling jealous because you don’t feel in control, or you are feeling insecure about what is happening and don’t know what to do. As such you will act in a very reactive manner and the results of this are usually poor. Re-evaluate the situation and take control; is it another dude hitting up your girl? Act intelligently and unreactively and everything you’ve learned about dealing with these guys will give you a clear idea of how to deal with him. AMOG the guy and lower his value, go off and open a nearby set, spike the target’s buying temperature and make the OTHER GUY jealous. There is no need to feel jealousy yourself, but there is plenty of need to make other people feel it. 
After analyzing the effects jealousy can have on us and how much it can change a social scene, don’t you think it can have the same effect on others? Of course it can, except the only difference is that the people you’re going to be pushing it on don’t know how to deal with it. They will act in the way every other jealous person out there does and if you can do it properly it will almost always work out in your favor. Make a man jealous and he is going to react in ways that’s only going to make you a heck of a lot cooler. Make a girl jealous and you’re only going to make her more attracted to you.
So always keep your cool, analyze any situation you’re in and NEVER let your emotions take a hold of you. You’re a pick up artist, you’re one cool guy. Take hold of any social scene you’re in and play your game to its best. And remember to always keep your smile on you at all times.
Wild Card is a seduction writer operating out of Toronto. Aside from his work for Venusian Arts, Wild Card is a card dealer and drummer in a classic rock/new rock band. In his spare time, he takes every opportunity he can to have crazy adventures with his wingmen, Showcase and Prophet.
April 21, 2009 by Steve Jacks
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1. Only focusing on exercise
This is the most critical error most people trying to lose fat make, nutrition accounts for 70% of your fat loss plan. Yes you read that right 70%, the exercise only accounts for 30%, and so all those of you who are sweating it out at the gym only to go back to burger and fries and dinner are simply wasting your time. You need to really focus on eating the right macronutrient ratio so your body can start metabolizing fat rather than storing it. For most people the right ration of macronutrients are 40% carbohydrate, 30% protein and 30% fat, however each person needs different volumes of food each serving according to their body shape and goals.
2. Following Generic Diets
Following a generic one size fits all diet can only get you so far. Your specific body shape and size is unique, therefore your diet should be too. Your diet and nutrition plan should be customized to your body, your lifestyle and your goals. Most of the popular diets you read about aren?t customized to you specifically and this is where they fail. If you really like eating carbs and decide to go on a zero carb diet to lose weight, you will eventually break and go off the diet. If you are allergic to certain foods, or are a vegetarian, or just don?t like certain foods you shouldn?t be forced to eat any of them on your diet. Most generic diets fail when it comes to this kind of personalization and as a
result are useless to most people.
3. Not Doing Resistance Training
Strength training (or weight training) is one of the most important things you can do for weight loss. It builds muscle and helps burn fat all at the same time. During a strength training workout you will burn fat and calories during the workout, but you will also have a lasting calorie burning effect because your body will be busy building some new muscle. This is the true key to effective weight loss, each pound of muscle you put on your body burns an extra 50 calories at rest, this can mean an unbelievable 19 pounds across a year simply by putting on 3 pounds of muscle!
4. Doing the Wrong Type of ?Cardio?
While nutrition and resistance training is a huge component of fat loss. Cardio training helps burn a few more calories and conditions your heart and cardiovascular system. However training in your fat burning zone is NOT the most effective way to shift those unwanted pounds. Traditional long slow cardio workouts will burn some calories and build your conditioning, but they?re not the most efficient way to train. Interval training can achieve greater fat loss in less time than training in the fat burning zone. The most efficient way of blow torching unwanted fat is to complete high intensity interval training, this means using the work rest formula which will get your metabolism racing long after you finish your work out.
5. Not Eating the Right Kinds Of Food
Even though eating less total calories is the only real way to lose weight, eating the right kinds of foods can really help make this easier and satisfying. Let?s say your body burns 1700 calories per day, and you only eat 1000 calories for the next 10 days. You will no doubt lose weight. You will lose weight even if all 1000 calories were from chocolate cake or cheeseburgers. With that said, it wouldn?t be very satisfying to eat that way every day, those types of foods will typically leave you wanting more because of their high sugar load, and they also don?t take up much space in your stomach because they are so dense. You will end up becoming hungry faster and feeling less satisfied than if you ate nutrient dense foods like vegetables and fruits. The total amount of calories you eat is always the factor that will determine if you gain or lose weight, but the kinds of food you eat will determine if you will feel satisfied and happy while you?re losing the weight. This is why the kinds of food you eat matter.
6. Failing to set an outcome goal
If you don?t set a destination goal how will you know if you get there.? One of the most crucial aspects of losing weight is to set a clear SMART goal. It needs to be specific, measurable, attainable, realistic and timed. On average it is possible to lose a couple of pound a week, with this in mind if you want to lose a stone of body fat, it would take around 7 weeks to lose. Now that you have a clear goal you can start getting feedback on your progress, if for example it is week four and you have only lost a pound you know something isn?t working, you need to review what you are doing and try something else. Without that regular feedback you never know you are on track, so set a clear outcome with a time of when you want to achieve your desired body weight.
7. Not training hard enough
If your doing your cardio reading a magazine simply forget fat loss, if you are not sore from your workout you didn?t train hard enough, it?s as simple as that. You only need to train for around 50 minutes maximum, it should be hard and intense and leave you fatigued. To build the muscle needed for effective weight loss you need to create muscle damage, this means over loading the muscle, if your workout is not making you sore in the next 24-48 hours you need to change your workout routine. Each program should only last for four weeks before your body will get used to it, so rotate your training program.
April 21, 2009 by Simeon
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As most of you already know Facebook has taken over in terms of social interaction of the younger generation. Facebook is great for many reasons. Here?s a few of them you can use to your advantage:
-Show high value in notes
-Demonstrate pre-selection
-Create time bridges
There are also many more ways. When you number or e-mail close a new target, I recommend always asking if they are on Facebook and if they are immediately add them. Your response rate will be higher than text messages and significantly higher than calling. It’s also a great way of building your social circle as you can use the event invitation function to your advantage by attending events as well as recruiting people to your own event. Facebook is the greatest tool online in terms of building comfort. When you close a new target I recommend leaving wall posts once every day or two until the next meeting, and demonstrate value in every message to them. Build conspiracy by sending little cocky, funny messages privately to them, and increase your communication. Also, if you have mutual friends go to the mutual friends page and leave comments about your recent target. Staying active in Facebook will dramatically improve your odds in social circle game and also is a great asset in establishing day twos and preventing flakes.
Recommendations:
-Post messages on walls of the highest value women you know in order to entice reciprocal comments. This will show pre-selection to those just getting to know you.
-Blog about the exciting things happening in your life. If you are going bungee jumping tell the world about it because many interest activities make an interesting human being.
-Create events and invite Facebook friends on a frequent basis. This will demonstrate leadership on your part and will increase your value to targets.
-Send personalized messages to targets at least once a week and definitely on holidays. One PUA I talked to sent messages for five years to an out of town target till she finally came out to visit. There is a difference between neediness and persistent thoughtful commenting. Doing the latter yields results.
Good luck and happy sarging!
Simeon
Simeon is a VA Coachoperating out of California. After winning the title of Master Pick-Up Artist on Season 2 of VH1?s The Pick-Up Artist, Simeon has chosen to further his training with Mystery and Matador as he continues the everlasting journey of improvements in the pickup arts. Now he has chosen to give value to others by teaching the arts that have so dramatically transformed his life so that others may share in the enjoyment that pickup creates through the rigorous but rewarding journey of pickup artist training provides.
April 21, 2009 by Hawaii
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I have opened more sets than I can count but my best estimate is around 10,000 cold approach sets. When I first moved to Vegas over 4 years ago, I went out 7 days a week for at least 4 hours a day and just opened constantly. There are endless sets in Vegas so someone could easily open over a 100 sets a day in only a few short hours. The sets are not just in the clubs here, but literally everywhere on the Strip.
When I first started in the game I used the David Bowie opener, and the 80s song opener. I used these openers so many times that girls called me out on it weeks later. One time Mystery and I were walking through Treasure Island several years ago and a girl walked by me, pointed at me and said, ?Hey, it?s the David Bowie guy!? I had no idea who she was but she certainly recognized me from the opener that I had run on several hundred sets.
I stopped using opinion type openers after a while because I realized that they were too long and the set would take too long to give their opinion. I was in fact ?milking? the opener. You should never milk your opener. Most new guys spend too much time on the opener and sometimes don?t even get into A2; they get blown out on the opener because it is too long, boring, etc. I never get blown out anymore on the opener because the openers I use are so short and I transition directly into A2 right after the opener without hesitating. The only purpose of the opener is to open the set so you can transition into A2. I soon found that the best openers are the shortest.
The most important thing when opening is your body language, tonality and facial expressions. It is best to open over the shoulder when possible. You should smile before you open and say anything, then once you start talking, don?t smile too much because it is too try hard. You should use a warm, friendly tone while body rocking in and out to which is a nonverbal false time constraint. This gives the appearance that you are leaving and not staying long. This nonverbal false time constraint can be coupled with a verbal false time constraint such as ?I can only stay for a second, I have my friends here.?
When opening, it is much more important how you say something that what you actually say. So many guys get caught up in and stuck on the opener. If you are looking for the perfect opener there isn?t one. Sometimes now I will just say in Mystery?s tonality ?Hello, Hello? as my opener. That?s it, and then I will transition directly into A2. I will talk a lot more about opening in future articles. If you have any specific questions on opening or inquires about training email me at Hawaii@venusianarts.com or call me at 702-286-7785
Hawaii
April 18, 2009 by Knack
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Knack’s Theory on Teaching Pickup
Those of you that have had the opportunity to work with me know that I favor an approach to pickup that emphasizes a person?s natural abilities, talents, and personalities. I do this for many reasons, not the least of which is that many people that are learning pick up are not ?broken?. They do NOT need to be ?fixed?. There are people that will try to tell you that who you are as a human being is fundamentally wrong, severely flawed, or hopelessly crippled. I think this is a disservice, not only to the student, but to all of humanity. People all have amazing gifts and an inner radiance that people want to get to know, and will make the lives of people around them more luminous for their having passed through it. However, many people do not know how to display themselves to others in a way that is appealing and attractive. This is the epitome, the true apex of what pickup should become in your life. Pickup is an outlet not to randomly have sex with women, but to display to everyone around you both the wonder of the human being you are, and the human being that you have the POTENTIAL to become.
When I was working behind the scenes with the contestants of ?The Pickup Artist 2?, I recognized that many of the contestants had incredible potential. Rian recently told me when he was visiting me in DC ?I liked who I was. I always knew I was a great guy. The problem was that no one else recognized it. So either I wasn?t a good person, or I wasn?t making who I was clear to people.? Rian summed my view on matters pretty well. Someone like him doesn?t need to be scrapped and torn down. They only need to be tweaked. However, there is an exception to this general rule: the person that doesn?t like who they are (for whatever reason). This type is fundamentally broken and actually does need to be fixed. This type of person can be either a butterfly, or a train wreck. At any rate, it requires a great deal more work and effort in order to change this person into a pickup machine. That is because not only do that have to learn the same skills everyone else does, but they have the added problem of changing their lives. You first have to start with what the person wants to become, and then build a plan of action for the transformation. It is usually a painful and long process, but with guidance and perseverance, it can be achieved.
Those that are not willing to work hard, accept guidance, and metamorphosize into what they want to become, will crash and burn, and it isn?t pretty to watch. In the end, with the right teacher and a strong will, anyone can improve their lives and attract women. It is in those moments of acceptance of an extended hand that we achieve greatness, and when we are great, women follow. Once, the greatest minds extended their hands to me: John Gray (Men are From Mars, Women are From Venus), Sean Messenger, Mehow, Mystery, Matador, Lovedrop, and Hawaii. It is my pleasure, duty, and privilege to be able to teach attraction, seduction, and relationship skills to men, and extend to you the same hand of brotherhood that years ago was extended to me. It is I, which thank all of you for making that honor possible.
—-Knack
April 18, 2009 by Dr. Chaves
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The Art of Erotic Foreplay – Part 1 – Making foreplay your best friend
I know what you?re thinking. ?I followed all the tips and advice Matador gave me. I changed the way I dressed, talked, acted, and now I find myself in the position I use to dream about. I?m about to have sex!? In dreams, everything seems to work out exactly the way we fantasize about it. We see ourselves as Casanova or Don Juan, seducing the maiden and providing her with pleasure beyond her wildest dreams. However, all the dreams in the world aren?t necessarily going to help her sing your sexual praises the next morning. Learning how to become comfortable and knowledgeable about sex are might help her sing that song. My name is Dr. Hernando Chaves, sexologist and sex educator, and I am making it my personal mission to make you a better lover.
In this 4-part article, we?ll be talking about foreplay, often referred to as the forgotten step by women. There are a lot of foreplay questions men ask. How long should foreplay last? What exactly should I do in foreplay? How do I know what she will like? These articles will help you find the answers to those questions. Foreplay is anything and everything we do before intercourse to get our partners feeling sexual and erotic. It?s the preheating of the sexual oven; the stretching and warm up before showcasing your sexual skill. Foreplay is different for men and women. Guys may see an attractive image and have an erection almost immediately. For women, it often takes more time and exploration to reach that state of readiness for sex. Be creative. Foreplay doesn?t have to start in the bedroom. A good lover and erotic expert begins foreplay well before the clothes come off and the sheets get warm. Without even knowing, you might already be setting the stage for pleasurable sexual experiences in your life.
Every woman is different, so adjust your lovemaking and foreplay techniques accordingly. To be a great lover, you are going to have to remember things and pay careful attention to details, sights, sounds, reactions, effectively listen and communicate, and have the sex techniques to back it up. Each woman wants things that are unique and erotic specifically for her. Finding these erotic turn ons will set the stage for emotional connectivity and relaxation. It?s important to help bridge the emotional connection between you and your partner to increase comfort, set her mind at ease, and create a sexual environment for her to explore and let go. Some women may want a man to take charge and others may want a man to allow them to feel empowered. Some women enjoy certain areas of their bodies to be stimulated and others prefer different pressure and intensity to stimulation. Some women want long sessions of foreplay and others need just a few minutes and are ready for sex. You need to be able to identify her needs and adjust your style accordingly. Study her, take careful detailed mental notes and find out what fuels her confidence and comfort level. She?ll feel sexier when she is at ease and feeling confident in herself.
How long should foreplay last? As long as it takes. Stop looking at your watch and start focusing on her mind and body. As much as you want to have penetrative sex right now, the patient lover that allows foreplay to take its course sets the stage for the great sexual experience. Studies show that most women lubricate about 10-30 seconds from the beginning of arousal. That doesn?t mean foreplay should end once lubrication begins. It?s just starting. Other parts of her body may not be ready for sex: her mind, the vaginal cavity, blood circulation, adequate arousal and lubrication.
So relax and take a deep breath. If you?ve made it this far with a woman, you?ve been doing a lot right. The next articles will focus more on foreplay techniques and behaviors. My hope is you will read them, learn from them, and incorporate them into your sex life.
Dr. Chaves
Copyright 2009 Hernando Chaves
April 14, 2009 by Prophet
Filed under Dating Advice and Tips, Featured Articles
Time on the phone counts towards your seven hours, which means that practicing your phone game is an absolute must. Stop thinking of the phone as a tool for setting up a date, and instead look at it as a tool for building comfort
Unless you’re only ever making Same-Night-Pulls (and if you are, you are probably shooting yourself in the foot in a lot of other sets), Phone Game can be a crucial part of your game and can be a major sticking point for a lot of Venusian Artists. Anyone who hasn’t got this down yet in their game should make a conscious effort to try to #-close every single set the open. Get as many numbers as you can to practice on, no matter how short or bad your time in the set may have been. The more phone calls you make, the better your phone game will get. Hell, even calling a number that you are certain is a fake or will not respond is still practice and will help you start to feel more comfortable on the phone.
So to help you out, I’ve put together everything I’ve learned about phone game over my years in the field, as well as from other sources like Mehow, TD, Mystery, Lovedrop, and others. This is what works for me, and if you apply a little common sense it should work just as well for you. Since we’ve just rolled out the new site, I’m going to be posting these in a series
Part 1: Making the First Call
The first question that even AFCs ask about calling a woman after you get their number is “when should I call?” Some people say wait two days, some people say wait a week, and some people say call her that night. The truth is that there really is no definite answer. You have to decide when to call based on how your interaction went. I personally like to call her after one or two days, unless it’s a weekend and I know she’ll be busy, in which case I’ll wait until Monday. But if it seems like my game wasn’t exactly on par or she seems like the type to have forgotten me after a couple days, I may call her sooner. I’d personally rather appear a little eager than have to go through the “where do I know you from again?” conversation. It’s a pretty good state-killer. But as I said, there is no definite answer. You have to calibrate based on how the set went.
I’ve personally always liked Mehow’s plan for calling your targets.
The first thing I’ll do is send her a “feeler” text sometime in the early afternoon. This is usually something silly or ridiculous like:
- Bunnies are out to get me!
- OMG there’s WATER falling from the SKY!
- Excuse me, do you have any Grey Pupon?
- It’s really a shame we have to get a divorce, your parents are so rich.
- I’m too high maintenance for you
- Stop flirting with me, I’m too busy right now
- You’re sleeping on the couch tonight, young lady
- Under my umbrella ella ella eh eh eh
- I saw a bobble-head in a store today that looked like you
- I think I just saw Jesus and Santa talking outside of a Mc Donald’s
- Why is there no blue food?
- Someone left a rose on my doorstep this morning and I have no idea who it was
- I didn’t want to do this over text, but I can’t keep this from you anymore: I’m pregnant. What are we going to do?!
- I feel so old sometimes. I think I’m going to buy suspenders and take up bingo
You may or not get a response to your text. If she does respond, carry the thread humorously for a couple of texts back and forth, and then stop responding on a high note.
Example:
Prophet: God I feel so old sometimes! I think I’m going to buy suspenders and take up bingo
HB: u should get glasses with strings on them so u dont loose them
Prophet: and then I’ll start telling the same stories all over and over again and call all you kids whippersnappers
HB: Haha and start every story with well back in MY day?
And then I’ll just stop responding. From there, I’ll wait a few hours and then call her later in the evening. This way you are fresh in her mind and because you just went silent on a high note. If your text game was tight, she’ll be wanting more and will be far more likely to pick up when you call.
However, occasionally you will get a slightly needy or extremely interested girl, and she will still send you texts, even after you have stopped responding. Use your judgment here to decide whether she is being creepy/needy or if she just wants a little more you. She’s sending you IOIs with every message she sends you after you stop responding, so if you decide that it’s the latter you can just call her right then if you want. And if she calls YOU, be sure to answer and say something like “Haha, just couldn’t get enough of me, could you?”
If she doesn’t respond to your initial text, DO NOT SEND HER MORE. Wait until the evening and just call her anyway.
If she picks up when you call, immediately use callback humor. Call her a brat, a troublemaker, your attack kitten – whatever nickname you gave her when you were gaming her. And if you aren’t using nicknames in your sets? Get on that man! It builds conspiracy and will make you stand out from the rest of the AFCs that hit on her that night. It doesn’t HAVE to be a nickname necessarily, however. Any form of callback humor will work, as long as you’re fairly certain that she will remember it.
Next week: Part 2 – How to Talk To Her On The Phone
Prophet is a VA Coach specializing in routine stack creation who operates out of Toronto. Aside from his work as an instructor/site admin for Venusian Arts, Prophet is a software consultant at a leading software development firm. In his spare time, he finances, writes, and produces independent films with his wingmen, Showcase and Wild Card.
April 9, 2009 by Lovedrop
Filed under Dating Advice and Tips
Men really can laugh women into bed, because a sense of humour makes them seem more intelligent, psychologists have found.
A new study shows that women think that funny men are smarter and more likely to be honest than more dour counterparts.
Although studies have shown that humour is not linked to intelligence, researchers believe that the findings could be the reason why so many lonely heart ads placed by women list GSOH (good sense of humour) as a prerequisite for a partner.
Women have evolved to find intelligence an attractive quality because it suggests that a man will be a good provider for her and her children, the researchers believe.
Kristofor McCarty, from Northumbria University, who led the study, said: “A quick browse of lonely-hearts ads will confirm that women look for a good sense of humour in a potential partner ? our research may explain why this is the case.
“The findings provide evidence that women use humour as an indication of a guy’s intelligence.
“Intelligence is a very attractive quality as a clever man should be more able to provide resources for his offspring.
“But guys be warned: not just any gag will do. We discovered that the humour must be genuinely funny for the man to be judged as more intelligent.”
James Corden, the comedy star of BBC hit Gavin and Stacey, has said that being funny helped him to attract women from his teenage years onwards.
?My weight was never a concern for me. I could always talk to them and make them laugh, so they tended to overlook my physical imperfections,? said Corden, who is currently dating actress Sheridan Smith.
To rate the attractiveness of a sense of humour in the study, 45 heterosexual women were asked to read shorts descriptions of themselves compiled by 20 men, 10 of which were scored as extremely funny and 10 as only slightly funny.
The women were than asked how intelligent and honest they thought that the men were and how likely they would be to go on to develop a friendship or a long-term relationship with them.
The findings, to be presented at the British Psychological Society Annual Conference in Brighton on Wednesday, show that men who used the funniest descriptions of themselves were thought to be significantly more intelligent than those who weren’t as witty.
The women in the study also judged the men who had a good sense of humour as more honest and said that they would be more likely to become friends with them.
Funnier men were also seen as a better catch for a long-term relationship, according to the findings.
While women appear to prefer a men who makes them laugh, the psychologists say that previous studies have shown that the same does not hold true when the sexes are reversed – and men are not more attracted to funny girls.
Excerpted from The Telegraph. Read article here.
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