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My Home is Where I Game

Here you are. You’ve arrived to your venue and chances are this will be your only venue for the night. You’re fully excited, you’ve been planning it for hours, your cheat sheet is in your pocket, your breath is fresh, you are already in a talkative mood and ready for some action. But there’s one thing that suddenly seems to attack your mind: it’s your first time in this venue.

Aside from the friends you came with, there’s nothing you know in this place. Yes you’ve heard about it of course a lot of times and you probably know what kind of bar or club it is, but that won’t change the fact that you’re a newbie there and so you are penetrating the unknown. For some, this might not cause any problem but for others it seems to be like a devastating thought and you might feel so uncomfortable that your game could be completely ruined in the first seconds of your entry. So how can this feeling go away? Well it all depends on you my friend!

The reason why you feel unsure is because thousands of years ago going to an unknown field was a real danger. If the people of that field wouldn’t accept you as one of theirs, chances were your existence would end. Today we luckily live in a different era but in our heads we still feel this fear. As it is for the approach, the fear of the unknown keeps coming back and you need to learn how to deal with it. The good news is, it’s actually very easy to get rid of this feeling.

First of all before entering the venue put yourself in the right state of mind! Your goal of the night is to have fun and meet people. Yes of course you’re there to pick up girls, but don’t make a big deal out of it. Don’t tell yourself :  “I have to pick up girls” but try rather this: “I’m excited to have fun and make new friends”. Repeat this to yourself at least 10 times. That way you will already feel less stressed before you make your entry.

Once you are in the venue imagine you are entering your own living room. Now honestly; how do you feel when you are in your living room? Exactly, you’re relaxed and you don’t give a damn about anything. So why would it be different in here? Keep that picture of your living room for as long as you can or as long as you need to.

Don’t wait till you get in that state. Open immediately! Whether it’s the blond Diva next to the toilets or the fatty at the bar, it doesn’t matter. Make yourself at home! Wave to your (non existing) friend, smile, high-five girls or guys. Would you do all this if you were hosting a party at your place? Of course you would!

Whatever happens in the venue, good or bad, always ask yourself how you would react if you were at home. Do I care if a girl rejects me? No it’s cool, let’s move on.  Do I care if a guy tries to AMOG me? Nope, I’m smarter than him and I don’t fall into his game. It’s my home, my Game.

The last thing you need to do to completely forget that you have never been in this venue is to really believe that you are the owner. Walk in a way that conveys that you are a leader. Get your hands together on your lower back with a straight position and chat with anyone as if you were the president.

Wherever you go, there will always be a first time and if the fear of the unknown threatens to kill your night it’s more important to be prepared for that then for your Game itself. When you have the right state of mind, nothing can go wrong. So make yourself at home, any time, any place.

 

Moonlight

About Moonlight

Moonlight is a VA Coach operating out of Antwerp, Belgium and has been in the Seduction Community since 2005. He is a VA Coach and In-Field Instructor. In addition, he is a dancer, singer and actor. Moonlight is passionate about Psychology and Social Interaction.

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